Dear readers,

You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.

A few minutes after a moment was gone, Tudor (the “uncut diamond”) started writing an answer. An unique style he has: he wrote it in 10 minutes, no looking back, just writing and then clicking that “Publish” button. I do not say for nothing he’s “uncut”, nor I compare him with a “diamond” because I have a biased opinion about him. In the same time I was reading his answer, I gave the link to a few people I respect. And… “as much as I love to learn, I must at a point choose my very own way, the road that only I walk” (Quicksilver).

Together we walk

I have done and felt and thought a lot of moments with Tudor beside me. I will continue to do so a very long time from now on; on the bumpy road of life there are unclear rules, but still rules.

Yes, it is a “gliche”, but life is a GAME. A game like chess, which is played in two, against each other, but in which you learn and mature, in which you lose or win. Chess (like many other games), it’s not about winning or losing, it’s about the road towards the end; about where you have started, what you learn, losing a queen (love) or a rook (a best friend), moving on, becoming stronger with every move you make, with every piece you take, with every square you conquer. It does not matter if you play with the white pieces (helping) or with the black pieces (profit); in both cases, you are a player, learning the rules, walking the road and knowing yourself.

Or you can compare life with more complex games: more players (relatives, people you know, friends, very close friends) and, implicit, more rules. The basics are the same: in life there are no winners, no losers.  At the end of the day, at the end of the month, at the end of the year, at the end of your life, it does not matter if you have won or lost; it only matters the road. Or better yet, compare life with a game of hide and seek: hiding from getting hurt and seeking love; hiding from unpleasant profiteers and seeking your career path; hiding from yourself and seeking others.

I was once read that one is defined as a sum of the people he/she knows. That is true, if you know better/stronger character/wiser people, you are defined by them and become one of them and even greater. That is true, but “until one point”; until one fine line: the line between the people that define you (that influence you, that are your helpers, that are your role models, that MAKE you who you are) and YOU.

No matter how great/better/stronger/wiser are the people that define you and how much you learn from them, THEY are not YOU. No matter how much time you will spend with them or how many wonderful and unique experiences you will have beside them, your character will revolt. Your character will scream. Your character will make you FIND YOUR OWN ROAD.

Many people will try to help you and walk beside you. You will reject them. Some people will try to talk you out of it. You will be deaf. A few close friends will know that the road you have chosen is the road that only you walk.

Best regards,

Geo (Belea2008).

P.S.: Where YOUR road will take you, I do not know. But I wish you farewell and success, my friend! (don’t forget to follow me on Twitter: http://twitter.com/Belea2008)

Dear readers,

Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about things, and small people talk about wine.

Guess what I’m doing now? Mainly the same and different, this time listening to “Amy MacDonald – This is the Life“. The same: embedded below; different: made some tweaks to the embed window (a little larger and a boarder and a blueish color theme) – let me know what do you think about it. I have the belief that one has to search people who talk about great things, for people who think about great things, for people who do great things. I still believe in it, but…

…how many small things will you do before achieving that “great thing”? How many conversations about wine will you participate in before giving a speech in front of a million people? Just count the moments in your life in which you were entangling in meaningless ideas or goals; count them as sheep and see how long you’ll last before falling asleep. In the same time, remember one random jinx: Not all will become leaders!

Even if you are an uncut diamond, or Dalai Lama; even if you are a random guy on the Internet, or Linus Benedict Torvalds; even if you are a young engineer, or Anghel Saligny; even if you are a male, or a female – we all have a moment… a moment in which we are lonely with a friend beside us, a moment in which we want more, a moment in which we think  about the past. In this moment, we do want to talk about ideas, we do not want to talk about things, we just want to talk about wine. We just want to remember. We just want to chat. And brag, and say nothing.

The truth is, as strong as you are, showing a face to others, maybe another face each day. As prepared as you are to face the unknown; as willing you are to not show your weaknesses because others depend on you or just because; as your mask is made of stone; as you face challenges and don’t bother about feelings (your feelings); you are flesh. This is the moment in which your heart beats, in which your heart hurts, in which you are sincere and silent.  You are not sad, you do not regret distant friends, you do not remember the distance or the departure, you are just melancholic. It is that “What if?” moment.

This moment is not unique (you will have plenty of them), it is not unusual (you are human after all), this moment is a step (towards your goals). It is the moment in which you are part of the small people. You are prepared to change the course of your life. You are prepared to make life changing decisions. It is the moment in which every detail counts forever, the moment is you – small, human, unshielded, optimistic, idealist, friendly, open, caring, altruist. Every great person has this moment in order to become a leader.

In that very moment, you ask your friend: “Do we buy a beer?”, he says yes and the moment is gone! You are ready to conquer another mountain, or DREAM!

Best regards,

Geo (Belea2008)

P.S.: I said not all will become leaders; it is a false statement: everyone is a leader in its own unique way! Take care of you, your heart and I wish you success in conquering your mountains! (as always, if you have troubles, you can contact me on http://twitter.com/Belea2008)